My “I do” versus “to do” wake-up call!
Last Monday, I was doing homework for a book writing class I’m taking, but I was really struggling to concentrate. My thoughts were on other things: My son’s upcoming wedding, to be exact!
- where to find red, white and blue star glitter for the 4th of July themed party
- which shoes to wear with my mother-of-the-groom dress, red or silver?
- what heartfelt words I wanted to say about the bride and groom at the rehearsal dinner
A friend checked in to see how I was doing.
Me: I have a lot of work to do, but I’m distracted by last-minute planning for the rehearsal dinner and the wedding.
Her: Hmmm “distracted” by wedding stuff? Maybe this is where your focus wants to be because your son is about to get married and it’s a super special time. When’s the wedding?
Me: The rehearsal is Friday and the wedding is Saturday.
Her: This week?!? Sister! It’s ALL about the wedding.
I owe my friend a big thank you for this reminder. My priorities were definitely mixed-up! I was stressing myself out feeling I should be working, then fretting because I wasn’t getting much done – even though I’d deliberately lightened my schedule in anticipation of the big day.
What a relief (and joy!) to give myself permission to focus on what mattered most: being all-in as the mother-of-the-groom and enjoying the wedding planning and festivities!
Let’s face it, life is busy! Most of us consistently face the dilemma of having too much to do and not enough time to get it all done. In the midst of all this busy-ness, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s really important.
So if you’re feeling stressed out and time crunched, what is it that you need to give yourself permission to do – or stop doing? Giving your time and energy to what matters most makes you more productive – and a whole lot happier, too!