3 truths to let the real you shine through
I admit it. I’m a recovering good girl (with the occasional relapse).
I spent years following the rules, living up to other people’s expectations and trying to keep everyone happy. One of my core beliefs was that if I did all the “right” things, worked extra diligently and built up my credentials, success and happiness would be mine.
It didn’t quite work out that way.
I learned many valuable skills, got promotions and increased my earnings. But true happiness? Somehow, that kept eluding me.
Not one to give up easily, I kept searching. When I felt I’d achieved my goals at one job, I’d get restless. Time to reinvent myself – again. At least I thought of it as reinvention at the time.
Here’s how it played out. After transitioning from advertising executive to stay-at-home mom and community volunteer for several years, I re-entered the workforce to do something I’d never done before: sales. A few years later, I decided I wanted to put my skills and energy towards making a difference in a more hands on way. So I became a nonprofit fundraiser, then a consultant and eventually an entrepreneur running my own consulting practice.
All of this was incredible experience. I met smart, dedicated, inspiring people and worked hard to make the best contribution I could. With each turn of the career kaleidoscope, I gained new perspective and learning.
Still, there was a missing piece. Then it dawned on me.
All those years that I thought I was re-inventing myself, I was actually coming home to myself. With each new endeavor (even those that didn’t work out the way I hoped they would), I became stronger and braver. The Good Girl persona I’d started to develop as a kid that had become ingrained in my adult self, was gradually getting chipped away through my experiences.
Here are 3 truths to help you ditch the Good Girl thinking and habits that may be getting in your way:
- Your hopes and dreams are what matter, not everyone else’s expectations
- Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish – it enables you to show up at your best
- You can’t please everyone – and you don’t need to try
You don’t need to reinvent yourself to find the happiness and fulfillment you seek. Challenge the old stories that keep you playing small, find your voice and come home to your amazing self. It’s time to let your full genius shine!